People have a really hard time when trying to develop a gratitude practice. Quickly, they “run out” of the things they are grateful for.
I say, we are like fish who don’t notice water around them. We have the whole ocean of things to be grateful for.
Earl Nightingale said in his cult classic, “The Strangest Secret,” that people take for granted everything that is free and don’t appreciate the most valuable things in their lives.
Like air. Without the air, you will suffocate in a few short minutes. Yet, who appreciates the free air? Maybe, once in a blue moon a tourist in the mountains or at the sea, who notices the difference between those environments and the smelly air of a big city.
And the same goes with water, food, shelter, clothes, and other everyday items.
Well, shelter is not especially free, but recall how much you’ve appreciated your home when the Great Lockdown had been introduced. However, we rarely appreciate our homes on a daily basis. We take them for granted.
An Infinitive Source of Gratitude: People
Going back to fish and the ocean – this morning I realized I do not notice and properly appreciate people in my life. One thought was enough to start the avalanche of gratitude:
Isn’t it amazing that I have about a dozen people working with me, supporting me and helping me out with my writing and business?”
You see, at the beginning, the only people who supported me on my life transformation journey were doing it unwittingly. Like my wife doing household chores – I didn’t have to do them, so I had time to write. Like my employer – they paid me, thus I had funds to invest into my writing venture. Like my co-workers, who picked up my slack in work when my mind was focused on my stuff.
See what happened in those examples? They were all following their agendas, but it helped me with mine.
After several months, a more purposeful support started to organically emerge. My online friends cheering me up on my writing journey; thanks to their encouragement, I got the mental energy to continue. Chris Bell, who volunteered to edit my fifth book; he did a great job, and it became my first bestseller.
Nowadays, I have the support of a multitude of others. I especially cherish the support of those who do it purposefully to support me and my endeavors.
My two Filipino part-time VAs, who are doing the time-consuming stuff. My American proofreader, who painstakingly corrects my English. My family members, who help me out in my book advertising business.
Including my wife, who purposefully took over most of the household chores, so I could work more hours in my business. About a dozen people who helped me with my books production – formatters, editors, cover designers, audiobook narrators. Well, and dozens of beta-readers too.
My mastermind buddies and accountability partners, who carefully observe my journey and call me out about my BS.
Even More People
And there is the whole huge crowd of people providing their support while following their agenda.
A dozen or so people who purchase my books; new people every day.
Another dozen or so, who download my free books. A few dozen of my advertising service customers. About 40 people a day who visit my blog. A few hundred people who read my Medium articles. Over a thousand people who read my Polish answers on Quora. A few thousand people a day who read my English answers on Quora.
Several thousand people help me and support me every day.
Every. Single. Day.
Wow. And I barely notice, acknowledge, and appreciate them. The human fish in the ocean of people. I’m so blessed!
You Are Blessed Too
You don’t have to be an author or business owner to get the support of others. In fact, you are getting it all the time, around the clock.
This is what I mean by the human fish in the ocean of people – every day dozens, or even thousands people, follow their agenda, but they support you while being busy with their lives. People, whom you may never meet. People, whom you don’t know about or don’t normally notice.
How many people are working right now to provide water, electricity, and Internet for your home? Someone is working hard right now in a sweatshop in China, or in Cambodia, so you can enjoy your electronic device or a piece of clothing a few months down the road.
But why look for people so far away? Right there in your county, people hustle, so you can live your life. The gas you tank, the roads you drive on, the groceries you consume – every single good you utilize and enjoy is a fruit of labor of many.
Remember how we appreciated supermarket cashiers at the beginning of the COVID? Tap into this sense of wonder, and you will never run out of people you can be grateful for. They are everywhere around you.
They always have been there. They will always be there to support you.
Fish cannot live without water, and we cannot live without others. Do notice this. Do acknowledge it. Do appreciate it.
Be grateful for them.
Originally published at Medium.