The Law of Attraction believers are described as dreamers and unrealistic among many other, stronger terms. “It is doing that counts; you can’t just sit on your ass and dream out your future” – rant their critics.
I fully agree. You can’t and it’s doing that counts.
Nonetheless, those arguments are used all too often to ridicule the LoA idea and dismiss it as pure stupidity without an attempt at deepened reflection upon it.
I did that in the past. I considered all of this ‘positive thinking’ and ‘hokey-pokey’ stuff as a nutrient for the weak folks, who are always satisfied with hoping and never doing anything.
I changed my mind a bit over last two years. What has happened? Life has happened.
I started to seek opportunities for making more money, for creating more time for myself and my family. And the traditional answers were not satisfying at all: stick to your career, develop steadily, study, earn some professional certificates, change your job… And where will it all take me? In my country, only 2% out of those who earn more than $3k are specialists, and usually they earn just a little above this $3k threshold. That’s as much as following the traditional path has to offer me.
Give it a chance
I’m still a skeptic, but I want to probe the Law of Attraction, to try it before I give any final judgment. And as I started to study it, it suddenly made a lot more sense than when I just was a spectator ridiculing the whole idea.
Because LoA doesn’t say you should only dream… Yes, it says you should dream, it even emphasizes the importance of dreaming over doing, but it doesn’t stop there. It is just more comfortable for “the realists” (read: pessimists) to notice only the main, mental part of LoA and dismiss it out of hand.
Wallace D. Wattles, one of the precursors of LoA (the creators of The Secret, refers to his work in their movie) said that:
“There is no labor from which most people shrink as they do from that of sustained and consecutive thought. It is the hardest work in the world”.
I wholeheartedly agree. The longer I think about it, the more I’m inclined to agree with the LoA principles. The mental work is harder thus more focus should be put on it.
So, according to this philosophy, if you straighten out your thinking, then the doing will be easy. It will be an afterthought (pun intended).
I discovered that straightening your thinking is hard AND I didn’t really know how to do it. Consistent action may be hard to achieve, but all in all it’s easy.
Every project consists of a series of smaller tasks, which in turn can be divided into even smaller chunks. Let’s take for example publishing a book. There are at least 22 steps to self-publishing. Doing them is a no brainer, really. I went through the process first time having just a vague idea about it. Writing was the biggest challenge, but it could be divided into chapters, paragraphs, sentences and words. In the end, all you need to write a book is to type letter after letter, joining them into words and composing the sentences.
Simple, mundane work. And easy. How hard is typing a single letter? Then you just need to repeat this action about 50 to 200k times and your book is ready.
The same goes with marketing. It’s simply spreading the word about your book. If you want a huge launch, contact a thousand people. Do it one by one, email after email, tweet after tweet, phone call after phone call and eventually you will reach that number.
And you can always divide those tasks into even smaller chunks. To write an email you need to seize an address, put in a subject and write a message. Again, word by word. To make a phone call you need to seize a phone number, dial it and say the words.
Everything is tangible and easy to grasp.
However, achieving the right mindset, the one which allow you to sustain your action minute after minute, day after day, month after month—that’s an art. That includes some mental qualities unavailable to ordinary mortals. That is TOUGH!
And you know what? We don’t have sensible, scientific systems in place to implement this kind of mindset. We have no systems which would allow the average person to attain a successful attitude. Whoever claims otherwise is a liar and you can state this fact by just looking at the success levels in our society.
The science is still helpless when it comes to changing human behaviors. There are theories and treaties, but they all lack in the realm of massive implementation.
That’s why we need to refer to this kind of ‘magical thinking’ that the Law of Attraction offers. There may be more bells and whistles in it than real substance, but as long as you stick to it, you practice all the woo-woo stuff like visualization, faith in a positive outcome, daily affirmations and so on—your thinking is on the right track. This, in effect, gives you the impulse for the right actions.
Then strange things start to happen. Like attracting the people and the events you need, even if you don’t know you need them. The LoA concept verifies in your eyes. That’s not the theory. Those are facts.
Take the average Polish guy with a mediocre command of self-taught English, who has never published anything and estimate the chances of him selling well over 2500 books on Amazon in one year’s time.
I think you have bigger chances of winning the main prize in the lottery than that.
I had no budget, no experience and no clue. But I ‘attracted’ the people I needed; Diane Arms who voluntarily edited my four books, Hynek Palatin who voluntarily made me nice covers instead of the pitiful ones I had previously, Chris Bell who designed the marketing campaign of my book which became a bestseller and Christian Riegel who offered to translate my book into German.
I had no idea how to contact those people and persuade them to cooperate.
It just happened.
Unicorns and the like
If someone had told me about such encounters 2 years ago I would think of them as fairy tales. But heck, they were real! You can’t experience something like that and maintain your skeptical attitude.
I don’t say I buy into the whole LoA concept with the ridicule language, the idea that we are all energy and our brains are the systems generating and receiving energy vibrations.
All I say is that, in the end, it works.
Dream and do and you will achieve.
Cast one of those elements away and you won’t.
“The combined mental and personal action (…) is infallible; it cannot fail.”
– Wallace D. Wattles
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5 thoughts on “The Law of Attraction for Ordinary Mortals”
Hello Michal……I am reading the Slight Edge and just read about your success after reading Jeff ‘ s book and many others it seems. I just looked you up online and found you on this site. I like what you have to say and I am very determined to turn my life around into everything I always dreamed of. Thanks for the inspiration!!! Let’s stay in touch!
You are special, you know? Thousands folks have read my story in the book, but you are the one who actually took some action and initiated the contact.
Definitely, let’s stay in touch!
I never believed this theory before I saw this post of yours. You have shown a totally different aspect of it. I must say m inspired. Thanks for it.
I prefer trying out, before believing. I did that with the Law of Attraction and the results made me less skeptical toward this concept.
To be honest Michal, I’ve never really heard of the Law of Attraction until recently when I left my job for good. The funny thing is, I’ve always try to follow your steps of taking actions, having the right mindset and subsequently having things fall into place without this law. I call it love. Desire. And just putting our whole heart into the things we do.